Posts Tagged ‘friends’

Off to college

Wednesday, September 2nd, 2009

There’s a million different ways to break the news to my friend the Internet that life has taken a shift and that I’m changing directions and going to college. I’m going to give it the short treatment today but take comfort that there is a long version of this.

What: Two years of MiraCosta community college and then transferring to public university, most likely of the CSU variety. Choosing the community college route so as to save at least one arm and one leg on tuition costs. I have a direction I’m heading on a major, but not announcing it just yet in case I change my mind on this journey of growth and discovery.

When: Enrolling in January 2010 for spring semester.

With whom: Friends and comrades Chuck, Boo and Stephy Paone. I am enrolling with them. We’re enrolling in unity.

How (will it work?): Like magic :) Actually, more likely with huge amounts of prayer, lots of hard work, lots of coffee, and lots of lentils (they say the college student of our day lives on ramen but not me, no siree. Lentils, not ramen, will be my forever friend on this journey.)

More specifically, since we dig Activated Ministries and it digs us back, we’re going to keep working there part-time to further the cause of Christ and put lentils on the table while we studiously study. As far as lodging goes, we will lodge ourselves in an apartment, living together in harmony just like the early church.

Why college?: To gain the skills, knowledge, exposure and experience needed to help me serve God and fellow man with greater effectiveness.

That’s the very, very short version. The long version involves epiphanies, hours of dialog, soul-searching, excitement, moments of deep existential angst, fear, faith, God’s promises, waiting, writing, proposing, researching, Craigslist-prowling, calculating, re-figuring, researching, more researching, and hearty amounts of Uncle Dan’s Algebra review.

Blogging will continue – although at this point it’s more correct to say that blogging will start again. I plan to keep blogging until I find my blogging stride. I haven’t found my blogging stride yet and it may take years, but by golly I’ll keep blogging until I do.

Interview of the Month: Bethy, World Services

Friday, June 19th, 2009

I feel that this is a watershed moment in my young life. You see, I project that in ten – nah, make it five years – World Services will be open to the public. We’ll (gasp!) know where they live and that won’t be all. Dream the impossible dream with me and picture this:

Facebook

Karen Zerby is excited about the new GN I just finished. ILY Family! xoxoxo
(Steven Kelly likes this)

Twitter

KingPeter @JuanRS my flight lands in Rio in 2 min. r u sure sum1’s coming 2 pick me up? GBY!

Yup, that’s the bright and shiny future I envision. It’s gonna be awesome.

At that point it’ll be like “so you’re going to WS? Sweet, I hear Miami has some awesome national parks” (I don’t know why I chose Miami, it just came to me) and I’ll have to figure out what to do with all the time I devote to speculating where those WS’ites might live.

And when WS people come to visit for meetings and stuff, what will there be left to tease them about? And what will they have to be all cryptic and mysterious about? There won’t be any point to rifling through their bags looking for their passport to check the stamps, or immediately grabbing their wrist when they first walk in the door in the hopes that they didn’t change the time on their watch yet, or offering them beer after beer in the hopes of…..dang, this actually getting to be kind of a depressing prediction. It’s like all the fun will be gone. Oh well. Change isn’t always easy, is it?

Back on topic.

Until that day arrives, savor this moment with me. My cousin Bethy, daughter of co-administrative head of the oft-publicized NRM The Family International, (hah, this is such fun) longtime member of World Services and all around cool cat, has agreed to let me probe her mind and share these probings with you. I’m excited!

You’ll notice that this interview wasn’t posted in typical Interview of the Month format. Bethy and I cheated just a little bit and did the interview beforehand and now I’m posting it all in one shot. The reason is that naturally, this interview had to get checked over by other WS bunny rabbits to make sure that Bethy didn’t give away vital information as to her whereabouts. It’s a tricky process and a very slippery slope. See, if she slips and says something like “and sometimes when the weather is nice I like to go out for a walk” this would clearly imply that the weather is at least sometimes nice where she lives, which considerably narrows the field of where WS could be located. With that kind of information, it would just be a matter of time before someone connects the dots.

Well, I think I’ve said all the foolish preliminary things that I felt I needed to say to preface this interview.

Enjoy!

Oh, one more thing. At the bottom of this post there are PHOTOS of real live WS people. I should add here that to my overly inquisitive eye, they’re all looking pretty tan. What can we learn from this?

(more…)

A Reflective and Quasi-Emotive Post

Monday, April 20th, 2009

Bear with me as I try something here. I’m going to try and write something that will likely disenchant my entire readership because it belongs in the type of blog that uses a lot of decorative italic fonts and peaceful nature images. This type of blog would be authored by the type of person who describes themselves as “a mother, a wife, a human, a citizen of the world who has loved, languished, laughed, and lived every moment with joy and expectancy in what each new day will bring” in their About page.

Yup, I’m going to write a reflective and quasi-emotive post. I just feel like it. All (if indeed I have any) male readers should read no further……no really, go away. I don’t want you to see me like this.

Are they gone? Good. Okay. Ready? Lord bless this.

My Reflective and Quasi-Emotive Post

Let it be entered into the record books that today, April 19th of 2009, was perfect in every way that concerned the weather. There was just the perfect amount of briskness in the springtime morning air to make my hot coffee still enjoyable. Summer mornings around here aren’t like that and hot coffee is something to be tolerated instead of savored. I savored my coffee while I sat on a couch with a clear view of a beautiful ocean and listened to Mr. Setfree read to me about the importance of going Beyond Duty on my mp3 player. After word I got through a couple chapters of a real book – the kind that you hold in your hands and turn real pages instead of hitting “page down”. It was a treat. Throughout the whole morning I was very sensitive to my awareness of how much there is in my life to be savored.

Then the weather turned warm, very warm. Warm, no, hot enough to tan all 77 of my very white zealous inches. I soaked up a righteous podcast on the subject of faith in secular society while the sun’s rays worked very hard to make me a more attractive woman.

Invigorated, I set out to do my laundry (for Sunday is my laundry day) and I even enjoyed that.

Then off to the winery with good friends. Never mind no gas in the car and one wrong turn, these things don’t matter when you’re with good friends. We wined, we…..wait, we didn’t dine. We mostly just wined in a gorgeous winery setting with vines and fountains and all that peaceful artsy type of stuff. A guy sitting at a table 20 feet from ours started playing classical guitar. He was really good. The sun made everything look quite golden and we laughed a lot.

Here’s what made this day so great. The weather helped, certainly. Good friends were a pretty vital element. I also watched the hotel scene from Out of Sight and that’s a surefire way to improve anyone’s day. But the real reason it was a great day is because I consciously decided I was going to stop worrying about the gosh-darn future and simply just live – enjoy my coffee, enjoy my Word time, enjoy my book, enjoy my friends, enjoy my hotel scene :) – just enjoy my day off. When you turn off that part in your mind that faithfully brings up all that there is for you to worry about, even just for a day, suddenly the lights come on and you recognize everything around you that’s available to enjoy in that wonderful thing called the present.

For reasons that I’m not ready to blog about just yet, my future is looking……yeah, uncertain is a good word. It’s thrilling and exhilarating and every adjective in that vein but it’s also scary. Too many big decisions. It’s only April and I feel like I’ve lived a lifetime during this year already. I find myself (there I am) spending most of my day living in the future instead of the present. Most of it is worry. Then I worry about how much I worry and so I try to do things to alleviate my worry and then worry that I didn’t do those things well enough.

I like C.S. Lewis’ take on the whole subject from The Screwtape Letters. I learn so much from Screwtape:

The humans live in time but our Enemy (God) destines them to eternity. He therefore, I believe, wants them to attend chiefly to two things, to eternity itself, and to that point of time which they call the Present…..Our (demons) business is to get them away from the eternal, and from the Present. It is far better to make them live in the Future. Biological necessity makes all their passions point in that direction already, so that thought about the Future inflames hope and fear. Also, it is unknown to them, so that in making them think about it we make them think of unrealities.

To be sure, the Enemy wants men to think of the Future too—just so much as is necessary for now planning the acts of justice or charity which will probably be their duty tomorrow. He does not want men to give the Future their hearts, to place their treasure in it. We do. His ideal is a man
who, having worked all day for the good of posterity (if that is his vocation), washes his mind of the whole subject, commits the issue to Heaven, and returns at once to the patience or gratitude demanded by the moment that is passing over him.

Or, even simpler. “Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself” Mat. 6:34. It’s a lesson I was happy to learn today. I’ll be back at it come Monday morning because the future is still there and it’s gotta be dealt with. And as much as I worry about it, it really is as bright as God’s promises. But refusing to worry about the future for one day and just live entirely in the present made for a very nearly perfect day off. Try it sometime.

Two pictures from this nearly perfect day for the last of my friends who aren’t on Facebook.

Oh, and

Thursday, April 16th, 2009

I added my Twitter feed into my sidebar too. It’s great hanging around with Dan, I absorb the social networking trend by osmosis. My philosophy for success in all things web 2.0 is….wait for it….

“Do as Dan does”

The Strawberry Jam

Thursday, April 16th, 2009

You’ll notice a very nifty little button with a juicy little strawberry in my sidebar. As you may have guessed, I’m doing my Christian duty and running ads for The Strawberry Jam. In meetings right now so I’ve only given the site a quick looksee but anything that involves a combination of my friend Florence, Japanese work ethic and vlogging can’t be a bad thing so check’m out, amen?

Remember this one?

Wednesday, April 15th, 2009

It is good to carry some powdered rouge in one’s sleeve. if may happen that when one is sobering up or waking from sleep, a samurai’s complexion may be poor. At such a time it is good to take out and apply some powdered rouge.”

:)

And Jesus please be with Shawn wherever he is. Amen.

Interview of the month: Ruthie, Memphis

Tuesday, March 31st, 2009

(LNF: Sweetness and goodness. Now I get to say that I had Veronica Love featured on my blog before she became the Great American Voice For Sports In The 21st Century and I’ll sell this interview to Time magazine for a pretty penny.

Oh, and Ruthie. I picked this pic because it looks the most like you, in my opinion — good-lookin’, brainy, and a twinge of cheesy. A lot of other pics didn’t cover all those bases to my satisfaction but if you’d rather another one up there, just let me know.)

Hooray, my favorite type of post to make. I started this a week ago but it’s been a crazy week so here it is now.

I don’t know whether its Ruthie or Veronica Love now, but I like Ruthie because well, you just look more like a Ruthie. Ruthie used to live in what is now my Home and about a year and a half ago (wasn’t it?) took a big hop, leap and a jump over to Memphis to study journalism. Not the easiest of steps for someone from The Family to take and I give her very large (Venti size) kuddos for going through with it.

I interview people that I want to learn from, and I have a lot to learn from Ruthie. So here’s hoping that she’ll stumble across el blog and teach me something and have some fun doing it. Interview guidelines found here.

Also, I feel that I may have gotten some terminology wrong or presented some of the questions in a way that doesn’t quite make sense. For instance, do you do “homework” in college or do you call it something else? Stupid question, I know, but I’m too tired to Google the answer and Kenji’s not on chat to ask. If I did, I welcome any of my readers to chuckle knowingly and gently guide me to the right terminology. Thank you for understanding.


What made you decide your particular school? How hard or easy was it to get in?

(Ruthie) Upon moving to Memphis I decided to apply to schools around Memphis and the mid south to stay near my relatives. Just in case I got scared and wanted to run home I could within a relatively short time frame. The school I’m in, Christian Brothers University, was actually not on my list of possibilities. Originally I had my heart set on Mississippi State and my mind prepared to settle with the University of Memphis, and the backup plan of community college if both of those failed, but God had other plans.

My aunt suggested CBU to me a few times, but I had ignored her suggestions because I thought of it as a rich snooty private college that would be really hard to get into. However, over the Christmas holidays I got a job offer to work at their bookstore, which I took because I needed a job. While I was working one day I met the food service manager of the school and we started talking. He asked me about myself and I told him how I had recently moved to Memphis and was looking into schools. He told me to look no further because I was coming to Christan Brothers. I then told him about my money situation and he said no problem. The next day one of the admissions officers came over to the bookstore with an application and a welcoming gift, as well as an admissions fee waiver.

A month after handing in my application I got my acceptance letter, as well as my letters from Mississippi State and Memphis. Then the Financial Aid packages came in the mail and Mississippi State became and no go as well as Memphis, both weren’t giving me the money I needed. CBU came through with almost a free ride so my decision was basically made for me on a money aspect, and after working there for a bit at the bookstore and going on a campus tour it became appearant that it was the school for me. It wasn’t snobby like I had first thought, or all that rich, and because it was a private school, the school was less populated and the classes were smaller and more personal, which made the home school to college transition easier.

Why journalism?

Well I’m actually majoring in English with a concentration in Literature and a Minor in History because CBU doesn’t offer a Journalism major. Reason being, I am really really bad at math, and every other major requires way more math classes than just my 1 measly required class, and I’m barely passing it as it is right now. As well as I’ve always liked writing as well as History. At first I was going back and forth between switching my major and minor around but you can do more and look better if you have a degree in English than History even though you do about the same amount of work in each.

What’s your long term plan and how many years ahead is it? Where do you want to be in 10 years?

Well I have 3 more years as an undergrad student, and if things go as planned I hope to land a job for a newspaper or print related company after graduation, most desirably a job in sports media. If that doesn’t happen I’m considering joining the Peace Corps for a year or two and then going to Grad School to get my Masters in Journalism, then give the reporter thing another try. But you never know, getting married could pop up somewhere in between and throw off the plan a little. However, in 10 years I hope to be working for ESPN. heh.

How was the transition from the Family lifestyle into secular society? Easier or harder than you thought? Any major surprises or things you weren’t expecting?

I was actually a little surprised at how easy the transition from the Family into secular life was. I was warned about the dangers and told how hard life would be outside if I left, but I haven’t found it to be that way. Perhaps I was lucky or had God on my side, because I was able to find a decent job, get accepted into the school I wanted, and “get a life” pretty fast and without many problems. However, I did have some problems adjusting to the life style differences, finding my personal stance on faith and religion, which I am proud to say I still believe in God…lol, and fighting homesickness. Overall the transition wasn’t as bad or scary as I was led to believe.

What are some of the advantages and disadvantages of growing up in The Family as it relates to your life now?

One advantage is that having had lived in so many different situations and countries I’ve been able to adapt to many cultures and personalities, which is great because now I have a wide range of friends. Also having had been known as the quiet shy one most of my life, it’s funny to now be known as outgoing and sociable. The flip side to the coin is that because of all the moving I don’t really have a hometown or a place to say where I’m from. My accent is quiet messed up and I just say I’m from Baltimore, most people are familiar enough to know it’s a place but not enough to know exactly what it’s like. I’m also half black and am called whitey a lot because of that side that isn’t really seen much in The Family. lol. Another disadvantage is having to refrain from my Pop Family references, such as TYJ and peanut and raisins. They don’t really float to well and leave many people highly confused. But I have found a friend who knows Veggie Tales…it’s close enough. :)

What’s the best and worst thing about college life for you?

I would say the best thing about college life is probably that there’s so many people to befriend and always different things to do. Something is always going on around campus and there’s never really a dull moment. I haven’t had a Ground Hog day/week yet. The worse thing is definitely the cafeteria food. It’s pretty bad for a university.

What’s the homework aspect like? How much time is spent doing homework? Are you methodical or do you cram? How often do you have to write papers, say, in a given month? Do you enjoy it?

Homework, yes it’s called homework, is the majority of the college experience. Heh. Classes are only 50 minutes long 3 times a week, or 2 times a week and an hour 15 minutes long. So the teacher ends up assigning a lot of reading to do. There’s this supposed saying that for every hour in the class there’s 3 hours of homework to follow up with. I’m sure it’s supposed to be like that but I’m not that faithful. I usually give an hour or two to each class. Right now I have 3 classes Monday, Wednesday, and Friday and two Tuesday and Thursday, so I alternate the homework. Like Sunday night I’ll do Monday’s, Monday night Tuesday’s, etc. I’m a cross between methodical and a crammer. If it’s a big project or paper I’ll do it a few days before it’s due, but not exactly when it’s assigned. Though recently I’ve had a few longer papers, around 5 pages, assigned Tuesday and due Thursday lately.

It’s hard to say how many papers I write a month, because some papers are written as in class essays, or part of tests, and others are assigned for homework. But I would estimate around 8-10, though some are shorter like a page or two.

I like writing, so it’s not hard to do, though it’s hard to please some teachers. Each teacher grades differently and I happened to pick one of the hardest graders in the English Department for one of my classes. I’ve learned my lesson and will try my hardest not to take her again.

Favorite and least favorite subjects?

Least favorite is definitely math. A friend me told that numbers form pictures which then tells the story, but I don’t see it. I only see numbers on a page. For me words tell stories and colors form pictures. I could never be an engineer.

I don’t have a favorite subject right now, but my favorite class was a Humanities course I took last semester. It was a small discussion based class on moral issues. It was loads of fun.

Has the financial crises been felt much on campus?

Yes, and no. Most of us are broke college students anyways, so if you walked around you wouldn’t notice much difference. But a letter was sent to our parents informing them that tuition is going up a couple hundred dollars next year because of the economic situation and more donation letters have been sent to my home lately.

And this final question from Chuck: “Ruthie, why do you eat cafeteria food when you KNOW it’s so bad for you?” Her words, not mine.

I eat cafeteria food because I have to. To live in the dorms we have to have a meal plan of at least 10 meals a week and if I’m paying for food no matter how bad it is I should eat it. Yes, I know it’s bad for me and I’ve been having stomach problems lately and I’m pretty sure it’s because of the food they cook, but again money is the issue. Waste not want not? lol. But I’ll try to do better. Next year I hope to get an apartment where I’ll have a fridge and stove to cook my own meals. Then I’ll be happy and healthy, instead of losing weight and having my insides deteriorate.