Posts Tagged ‘Chuck’

Off to college

Wednesday, September 2nd, 2009

There’s a million different ways to break the news to my friend the Internet that life has taken a shift and that I’m changing directions and going to college. I’m going to give it the short treatment today but take comfort that there is a long version of this.

What: Two years of MiraCosta community college and then transferring to public university, most likely of the CSU variety. Choosing the community college route so as to save at least one arm and one leg on tuition costs. I have a direction I’m heading on a major, but not announcing it just yet in case I change my mind on this journey of growth and discovery.

When: Enrolling in January 2010 for spring semester.

With whom: Friends and comrades Chuck, Boo and Stephy Paone. I am enrolling with them. We’re enrolling in unity.

How (will it work?): Like magic :) Actually, more likely with huge amounts of prayer, lots of hard work, lots of coffee, and lots of lentils (they say the college student of our day lives on ramen but not me, no siree. Lentils, not ramen, will be my forever friend on this journey.)

More specifically, since we dig Activated Ministries and it digs us back, we’re going to keep working there part-time to further the cause of Christ and put lentils on the table while we studiously study. As far as lodging goes, we will lodge ourselves in an apartment, living together in harmony just like the early church.

Why college?: To gain the skills, knowledge, exposure and experience needed to help me serve God and fellow man with greater effectiveness.

That’s the very, very short version. The long version involves epiphanies, hours of dialog, soul-searching, excitement, moments of deep existential angst, fear, faith, God’s promises, waiting, writing, proposing, researching, Craigslist-prowling, calculating, re-figuring, researching, more researching, and hearty amounts of Uncle Dan’s Algebra review.

Blogging will continue – although at this point it’s more correct to say that blogging will start again. I plan to keep blogging until I find my blogging stride. I haven’t found my blogging stride yet and it may take years, but by golly I’ll keep blogging until I do.

We’re officially social network junkies

Tuesday, June 2nd, 2009

Jules said:
did you totally twitter it?

MILTON said:
I totally didn’t
I thought you’d want to

Jules said:
so thoughtful
I’ll delicous it
you can twitter it

Interview of the month: Ruthie, Memphis

Tuesday, March 31st, 2009

(LNF: Sweetness and goodness. Now I get to say that I had Veronica Love featured on my blog before she became the Great American Voice For Sports In The 21st Century and I’ll sell this interview to Time magazine for a pretty penny.

Oh, and Ruthie. I picked this pic because it looks the most like you, in my opinion — good-lookin’, brainy, and a twinge of cheesy. A lot of other pics didn’t cover all those bases to my satisfaction but if you’d rather another one up there, just let me know.)

Hooray, my favorite type of post to make. I started this a week ago but it’s been a crazy week so here it is now.

I don’t know whether its Ruthie or Veronica Love now, but I like Ruthie because well, you just look more like a Ruthie. Ruthie used to live in what is now my Home and about a year and a half ago (wasn’t it?) took a big hop, leap and a jump over to Memphis to study journalism. Not the easiest of steps for someone from The Family to take and I give her very large (Venti size) kuddos for going through with it.

I interview people that I want to learn from, and I have a lot to learn from Ruthie. So here’s hoping that she’ll stumble across el blog and teach me something and have some fun doing it. Interview guidelines found here.

Also, I feel that I may have gotten some terminology wrong or presented some of the questions in a way that doesn’t quite make sense. For instance, do you do “homework” in college or do you call it something else? Stupid question, I know, but I’m too tired to Google the answer and Kenji’s not on chat to ask. If I did, I welcome any of my readers to chuckle knowingly and gently guide me to the right terminology. Thank you for understanding.


What made you decide your particular school? How hard or easy was it to get in?

(Ruthie) Upon moving to Memphis I decided to apply to schools around Memphis and the mid south to stay near my relatives. Just in case I got scared and wanted to run home I could within a relatively short time frame. The school I’m in, Christian Brothers University, was actually not on my list of possibilities. Originally I had my heart set on Mississippi State and my mind prepared to settle with the University of Memphis, and the backup plan of community college if both of those failed, but God had other plans.

My aunt suggested CBU to me a few times, but I had ignored her suggestions because I thought of it as a rich snooty private college that would be really hard to get into. However, over the Christmas holidays I got a job offer to work at their bookstore, which I took because I needed a job. While I was working one day I met the food service manager of the school and we started talking. He asked me about myself and I told him how I had recently moved to Memphis and was looking into schools. He told me to look no further because I was coming to Christan Brothers. I then told him about my money situation and he said no problem. The next day one of the admissions officers came over to the bookstore with an application and a welcoming gift, as well as an admissions fee waiver.

A month after handing in my application I got my acceptance letter, as well as my letters from Mississippi State and Memphis. Then the Financial Aid packages came in the mail and Mississippi State became and no go as well as Memphis, both weren’t giving me the money I needed. CBU came through with almost a free ride so my decision was basically made for me on a money aspect, and after working there for a bit at the bookstore and going on a campus tour it became appearant that it was the school for me. It wasn’t snobby like I had first thought, or all that rich, and because it was a private school, the school was less populated and the classes were smaller and more personal, which made the home school to college transition easier.

Why journalism?

Well I’m actually majoring in English with a concentration in Literature and a Minor in History because CBU doesn’t offer a Journalism major. Reason being, I am really really bad at math, and every other major requires way more math classes than just my 1 measly required class, and I’m barely passing it as it is right now. As well as I’ve always liked writing as well as History. At first I was going back and forth between switching my major and minor around but you can do more and look better if you have a degree in English than History even though you do about the same amount of work in each.

What’s your long term plan and how many years ahead is it? Where do you want to be in 10 years?

Well I have 3 more years as an undergrad student, and if things go as planned I hope to land a job for a newspaper or print related company after graduation, most desirably a job in sports media. If that doesn’t happen I’m considering joining the Peace Corps for a year or two and then going to Grad School to get my Masters in Journalism, then give the reporter thing another try. But you never know, getting married could pop up somewhere in between and throw off the plan a little. However, in 10 years I hope to be working for ESPN. heh.

How was the transition from the Family lifestyle into secular society? Easier or harder than you thought? Any major surprises or things you weren’t expecting?

I was actually a little surprised at how easy the transition from the Family into secular life was. I was warned about the dangers and told how hard life would be outside if I left, but I haven’t found it to be that way. Perhaps I was lucky or had God on my side, because I was able to find a decent job, get accepted into the school I wanted, and “get a life” pretty fast and without many problems. However, I did have some problems adjusting to the life style differences, finding my personal stance on faith and religion, which I am proud to say I still believe in God…lol, and fighting homesickness. Overall the transition wasn’t as bad or scary as I was led to believe.

What are some of the advantages and disadvantages of growing up in The Family as it relates to your life now?

One advantage is that having had lived in so many different situations and countries I’ve been able to adapt to many cultures and personalities, which is great because now I have a wide range of friends. Also having had been known as the quiet shy one most of my life, it’s funny to now be known as outgoing and sociable. The flip side to the coin is that because of all the moving I don’t really have a hometown or a place to say where I’m from. My accent is quiet messed up and I just say I’m from Baltimore, most people are familiar enough to know it’s a place but not enough to know exactly what it’s like. I’m also half black and am called whitey a lot because of that side that isn’t really seen much in The Family. lol. Another disadvantage is having to refrain from my Pop Family references, such as TYJ and peanut and raisins. They don’t really float to well and leave many people highly confused. But I have found a friend who knows Veggie Tales…it’s close enough. :)

What’s the best and worst thing about college life for you?

I would say the best thing about college life is probably that there’s so many people to befriend and always different things to do. Something is always going on around campus and there’s never really a dull moment. I haven’t had a Ground Hog day/week yet. The worse thing is definitely the cafeteria food. It’s pretty bad for a university.

What’s the homework aspect like? How much time is spent doing homework? Are you methodical or do you cram? How often do you have to write papers, say, in a given month? Do you enjoy it?

Homework, yes it’s called homework, is the majority of the college experience. Heh. Classes are only 50 minutes long 3 times a week, or 2 times a week and an hour 15 minutes long. So the teacher ends up assigning a lot of reading to do. There’s this supposed saying that for every hour in the class there’s 3 hours of homework to follow up with. I’m sure it’s supposed to be like that but I’m not that faithful. I usually give an hour or two to each class. Right now I have 3 classes Monday, Wednesday, and Friday and two Tuesday and Thursday, so I alternate the homework. Like Sunday night I’ll do Monday’s, Monday night Tuesday’s, etc. I’m a cross between methodical and a crammer. If it’s a big project or paper I’ll do it a few days before it’s due, but not exactly when it’s assigned. Though recently I’ve had a few longer papers, around 5 pages, assigned Tuesday and due Thursday lately.

It’s hard to say how many papers I write a month, because some papers are written as in class essays, or part of tests, and others are assigned for homework. But I would estimate around 8-10, though some are shorter like a page or two.

I like writing, so it’s not hard to do, though it’s hard to please some teachers. Each teacher grades differently and I happened to pick one of the hardest graders in the English Department for one of my classes. I’ve learned my lesson and will try my hardest not to take her again.

Favorite and least favorite subjects?

Least favorite is definitely math. A friend me told that numbers form pictures which then tells the story, but I don’t see it. I only see numbers on a page. For me words tell stories and colors form pictures. I could never be an engineer.

I don’t have a favorite subject right now, but my favorite class was a Humanities course I took last semester. It was a small discussion based class on moral issues. It was loads of fun.

Has the financial crises been felt much on campus?

Yes, and no. Most of us are broke college students anyways, so if you walked around you wouldn’t notice much difference. But a letter was sent to our parents informing them that tuition is going up a couple hundred dollars next year because of the economic situation and more donation letters have been sent to my home lately.

And this final question from Chuck: “Ruthie, why do you eat cafeteria food when you KNOW it’s so bad for you?” Her words, not mine.

I eat cafeteria food because I have to. To live in the dorms we have to have a meal plan of at least 10 meals a week and if I’m paying for food no matter how bad it is I should eat it. Yes, I know it’s bad for me and I’ve been having stomach problems lately and I’m pretty sure it’s because of the food they cook, but again money is the issue. Waste not want not? lol. But I’ll try to do better. Next year I hope to get an apartment where I’ll have a fridge and stove to cook my own meals. Then I’ll be happy and healthy, instead of losing weight and having my insides deteriorate.

God does answer prayer!

Tuesday, March 24th, 2009

Whoa. I was just sitting here thinking about how I need to pray for people more and then I remembered that back in 2004, Chuck and I went on a concerted and concentrated prayer push for Jer. We used to wake up every morning a half hour before devotions and desperately pray that the Lord would turn Jer’s life around and use him for good. I think we kept it up for a good couple of weeks.

And like, five years later, look! The Lord totally answered our prayers. Jer’s now a good solid Christian doing good solid things with his life. What a victory!

Thank the Lord for that inspiring reminder that prayer works.

Glad game #6: Trick or treat

Saturday, February 28th, 2009

I have a lot to say about a lot of stuff. Much of it is much more meaningful than what usually shows up on this blog. Easygoing posts are much easier to make – they require less thought and less humility. But hey, thinking and humility are two things I’m striving for so once I get a grip on what I’m trying to say, I’ll post it and hopefully it’ll be a blessing.

But in the meantime, here’s a few more trivial tidbits of stuff that makes me happy from last year.

See — I never got to trick or treat on Halloween when I was a kid. I’ve done the dress up thing and yeah, that’s all well and good. But last year I felt an instinctive and intrinsic need to experience the practice of trick or treating. As always, my friend Chuck was there to support and share the journey of discovery with me.

Thankfully, we live with a number of families who around 8:00 at night can be counted upon to be in their rooms putting their loving children to sleep. We came to see them as our prime targets. In order to make sure that my first trick or treating experience was satisfying, we sent around this email to prepare the hearts of our Home members.

Jules and I, as you know, did not have a traditional childhood. We never got to celebrate Halloween the way God intended it to be celebrated.

All that to say, we’ll be shadowing your doorway on the night of October 31’st, in full costume, baskets in hand, waiting….nay…yearning for that joyful moment when all our childhood dreams will come true.

And if not.

We’ll toilet paper your doorway.

Much love,
Chuck and Jules

The night arrived and we commenced. We tried to project ourselves back into our childhoods and costumed as we felt we would have dressed at around age eight – a ballerina and princess, respectively.

The first door we knocked on was in and of itself, a reward. Just look at the happy faces. We also scored some awesome sugarless popsicles from these guys.

The next door was slightly less rewarding in that Doehler felt that sunflower seeds was all he could spare.

These guys were fully satisfactory. We scored real, unhealthy candy.

I’m not sure if there was full understanding of what we were trying to do by the child at this door. But she was a good sport and was, in the end, convinced to give us candy.

Here is where we encountered a challenge. But it was a challenge we quickly rose to. A certain someone who shall remain nameless for the shame that still abides with him did not come to the door. After repeated knockings he stuck his head out and told us in so many words to scamper off. We responded like so:

As you can see, it was a rewarding teamwork effort that left us with mixed emotions. And here are the cumulative fruits of our labors.

All in all, I felt it was a healthy sampling of what it’s like to trick or treat and my character is now that much more rounded out for having experienced it. I would definitely recommend it to anyone who hasn’t tried it yet.

Glad game #2: Walrus Day

Sunday, February 1st, 2009

In 2008, Chuck and I, with the help of our friends, perfected the art of Walrus Day. It’s something I’m deeply grateful for and it goes like this.

Step 1: Wake up on freeday.

Step 2: Eat a large breakfast and drink a caguama.

Step 3: Take the empty caguama bottle you just drank and trade it at the corner store for a new one.

Step 5: Steal the boombox from the other Home.

Step 4: Go to the beach, drink your second caguama, and lie in the sun like a walrus while blaring metal.

Man, I miss summer. A couple weeks ago we went out on a boat and saw real walruses and noticed that they do a great deal of barking. If its warm enough to fit in a Walrus Day before I leave, we have so definitely got to include the barking.

Notice that we work with the 27% mas caguamas. I’d say on the overall, it helps to make Walrus Day about 27% more fun.

Merry Christmas!

Friday, December 26th, 2008

It’s gotta still be Christmas somewhere way off of the West Coast and I am therefore still validated (my new favorite word) in posting our Christmas card. Merry, merry Christmas and Happy New Year to all. And if you happen to be a part of our greater three Home team and you did not receive a Christmas card for every single member of your family (or future unborn children), please alert us right away and we’ll give you a fresh one. We totally ordered too many cards from Walmart – I really don’t know what we’re going to do with all the extra ones. Maybe we’ll write the salvation prayer on the back and hand them out during border crossings or something…..